“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
– Joseph Campbell
It’s a well known fact in New York City, that your server at this chic restaurant, has imagined a better life for themselves. The most common question I receive after “What’s good here?” is, “What do you really do?” The implication of this question never fails to upset me. These guests admittedly don’t consider what I do to be viable. We servers are professionals that people actually accuse of making poor career choices. If I make the mistake of revealing my artistic pursuits, these same guests will often remind me what a bad professional call that is as well. In New York City, I’ve found that everyone has an opinion about how you should be living your life, especially if you have the misfortune of being a waitress with a dream.
This blog exists to set the record straight, for everyone. Serving isn’t just a means to an end. For long stretches of time, it becomes what young promising artists are doing almost exclusively. I take great pride in my ability to exceed the expectations of strangers, almost daily. The dinning room is our classroom on a good day. Our motivation to work harder at our preferred craft, on a bad day. But, it is never as demeaning or foolish as you, my regular guest, would like to believe it to be.
For now, I’m at once supporting myself, keeping my dream alive, and waiting on your table. Service has made me exceptional at multi-tasking. You are right, it’s not forever. God willing. But it’s pretty good in the mean time. As your server I will respect your needs. As a writer of this blog, I will not be shy about chronicling every messy detail of our brief encounter. Remember, there is no guest/server privilege. Expect me to be brutally honest. Waiting on anything can be challenging, but through years of practice I’ve learned that is an equally important, if not absurd, part of the journey.
Read more about Waiting is the Hardest Part here.